Co-parenting: much more than just a practical gesture
What could be more magical than feeling that little body all curled up against you? Maybe you've already experienced skin-to-skin contact at the maternity ward. That suspended, intense moment when the bond is woven to the rhythm of heartbeats.And what could be more natural to create a deep attachment between you two, as you are still discovering each other... Even if you've always been there, by their side, whispering sweet words through their mother's belly, you have to admit: she has a nine-month lead.But rest assured: carrying your baby is a wonderful way to catch up on this time, to build your bond at your own pace, gently and with closeness. A physical and emotional connection Carrying your baby means physically feeling the fullness of having them against you. Their body curled on your chest, rocked by your breathing, your heartbeat, your movements. Because yes, as soon as the baby is against you, your body naturally begins to sway.Seeing them fall asleep against you, letting go in complete trust... and feeling, yourself, becoming a parent. More and more competent, more and more connected to their essential needs: contact, movement, attention, security. Carrying helps calm their cries, soothe their fears, support their natural development. And, little by little, they will no longer just fall asleep against you, but will discover the world... your world. Safely, in this caring "pocket" that allows them to explore without being jostled, at their own pace. Much more than a practical solution Yes, carrying your baby allows you to have free hands. Yes, it's practical for walks, errands, falling asleep. But above all, it is a deeply instinctive and nourishing gesture.Unlike other mammals, human babies do not know how to move around at birth. They need to be carried. This is how they feel safe, how they develop their body, their brain, their five senses... and much more.Some babies demand a lot, others less. But all fundamentally need it. Otherwise, nature would have planned things differently. A carrying method that suits you All that's left is to find the carrying solution that suits you: according to your desires, your morphology, your daily life. The key is that you feel comfortable, autonomous, and confident in placing your baby in it.For that, don't hesitate to contact a carrying instructor. They are professionals trained in physiological carrying. They will teach you much more than knots: they will give you valuable keys about babies' needs, and help you find the most suitable solution for your duo.At Néobulle, we believe that carrying is a wonderful tool to strengthen the parent-child bond, support the baby's development, and allow each co-parent to find their place, naturally.Do you have a question or want to share your experience? Join our community or contact our carrying advisors.
Postpartum after a cesarean
Your labor was or will be by cesarean section and you don't know if carrying your little one is possible and if so under which conditions? This article is for you! The immediate postpartum, what precautions Whether after a vaginal birth or a cesarean, carrying your baby in your arms or using a carrier system is possible right after birth, but requires some precautions: Avoid pressure on the abdomen: the perineum being weakened by pregnancy, it performs its role less effectively and pressure on the belly tends to push the organs downward, increasing the risk of complications such as organ prolapse Take time to recover: pregnancy and childbirth are trials for the body; taking care of yourself allows to recover physically and psychologically Sometimes it is said that after a cesarean, you should wait a month before carrying your child. While it is true that a cesarean being an operation, recovery can sometimes take longer, the scar may take more or less time to heal, pain may be observed, and it is therefore important to be especially cautious not to push too hard. It is also worth noting that it is not realistic to imagine that the young mother will not carry her baby at all! Sometimes we find ourselves in very paradoxical situations where carrying a baby with a carrier is discouraged but where the new mother ends up carrying the baby in the stroller or in a car seat, which turns out to be much worse than the initially prohibited situation! A well-adjusted baby carrier allows distributing the load across the entire chest, often relieving tensions observed in the arms (tensing, fear of dropping the baby, baby appearing heavier) and overloading the abdomen, so it is a real ally, especially after a somewhat complicated delivery. Whether carried in arms or with a device, it is recommended to listen to your body: when a feeling of heaviness is felt in the perineum, if possible, it is strongly recommended to lie down to relieve the area. Which baby carrier to use? All physiological systems allowing to carry high on the chest (to avoid pressure on the abdomen, especially the scar which can be painful) are usable. In brief: Carrying scarves Slings Mei-tai carriers Preformed carriers allowing high shoulder carrying (Neo or MyNeo, for example) Preformed baby carriers that distribute the load only on the pelvis are not recommended, not least because the waistband will be positioned directly on the scar! Non-physiological baby carriers that do not allow a proper fit and promote the baby hanging on the caregiver's body will tend to put more strain on the abdomen to compensate for their poorer stability. You understand, using a carrying system after a cesarean is entirely possible. It is always important to listen to your body and not push yourself in case of pain or heaviness. Remember that baby carriers are not meant to allow you to tidy up the house immediately postpartum: rest is essential above all!
The containing touch
The benefits of massage are numerous! Touch, no matter how simple, is important for baby and their development. Touch, is already what you do when you carry them, give them a bath... There are several types of touch, and in this article, I would like to talk more specifically about the containing touch, which I find particularly magical. The containing touch is particularly suitable for many situations: For children who do not want to be massaged, for children we cannot calm down, for disorganized children, "scattered"... The technique has the advantage of being very simple. It suffices to use both hands, placing them at two opposite points on the baby's body, then applying gentle pressure while bringing our hands closer together (keeping the baby's body between our hands). This movement aims to "gather" the baby and has a calming, containing virtue... like in the mother's womb! This technique is magical: I have tested it on people of all ages and the reactions were quite surprising. With a baby who was crying and, as soon as his mother performed this touch, he stopped, started to fidget again if his mother removed her hands, and calmed down as soon as she put them back... Older, on a teenager who told me: "what you just did is great, it brought us together!". On an adult woman I performed this touch at the end of a massage session, and she told me it was her favorite moment. I think that somewhere, deep inside each of us, who has known the containing womb of our mother, this touch brings us back to something very reassuring, archaic.
All the times babywearing saved my life!
Single mom in the city, parents on the go or with a large family: Babywearing makes everything easier! For me, babywearing means: Giving him time to sleep , allowing me to share quality time with his brothers and sisters, and yes, no jealousy , we think of everyone! Cook on time so that the siblings don't turn into a gang of hungry little monsters. Have a telephone appointment without interference (You know, the endless 45 minutes with the Caf or social security...) Spending time with my friends and avoiding being isolated, half the evening, in the baby's room . Allowing myself a relaxing break , nestled deep in my favorite armchair, without falling asleep of course Offer my baby a safe space in the crowd and protect him from street stimuli: noise, smell, color (see article on carrying facing the world ) If it can prevent him from having his cheek pinched by the annoying little Grandma "how cute is this baby!" Accompany me during the long nighttime trips up and down the hallway , trying to get the baby back to sleep after a nightmare. You know, when you're so sleepy that the only strength you have left is to move your pelvis to rock the baby and hum a lullaby, which you hope will be effective! It's cheaper than driving around the block, and I even have the luxury of staying in my pajamas ... "Actually, by carrying my children, I did everything" - Camille Have both hands free to: Accompanying my eldest to school without risking a "I don't want to go to school" turnaround Validate the bus ticket and hold on to the bar, while watching over the stroller ! Carry shopping bags and diaper packs (no need to go to the gym!) Continue my hobbies , while spending time with my baby. Go fishing (yes, yes…) Strolling through the undergrowth and picking mushrooms, hiking and reaching the summit via stony paths. Board games with friends, Reading, writing, drawing, Knitting . Volunteer at my local library or community center. Save the price difference with a "high-tech-multifunction-super-plus" stroller, while still allowing for lots of cool tricks. Save space , and allow me to move “light” (compared to the bulky stroller mentioned above) On public transport: train, bus, plane In his apartment In the trunk of the car – no more complicated stroller folding instructions! Facilitate Obstacle crossings Stairs Door openings Sidewalks And even going to the toilet at the station snack bar!
Tips and tricks to optimize the scarf 100%
According to the testimonies of parent users No panic, we're here to support you! You can check out our tutorials to learn from home or get closer to our carrying instructors for more personalized support, which is a real plus to encourage you, and an opportunity for exchange with other parents. And if you still have doubts, here is a list of benefits of the sling, that no other carrying system offers. It is always useful and its options are endless! Imagine a little walk "light mode" and baby is doing well, relaxed, so relaxed that it gives you a gift in the diaper: fold the sling over itself, and it becomes a changing mat! An impromptu nap, it will keep warm like a blanket, in the car or on a small patch of grass, when the older kids are playing in the park, for baby... … Or its parents, because it can also turn into a quilt, on the fly, when mom feels a little cold... A doudou available, a soft fabric with the smell of mom or dad, And even for breastfeeding safely (see tutorial link for the knot) And when baby finally falls asleep in his bed, we roll it into a ball, and it turns into a pillow for parents' nap on the couch. Use the leftover fabric after the knot as a paper towel:Wipe mom's forehead after 3 hours of hiking, while baby naps on her back Mess up baby’s face after a wild snack of a chocolate biscuit. But no, it’s not that dirty! Because another important advantage of the sling is that it washes very easily ! A quick machine wash with the family laundry, and there you go, the job is done! And when baby grows up? Then you can recycle the sling: Throw it on a small table and build enchanted huts; tie it under a table to make a little hammock: perfect for solo reading time; transform it into a small puppet theater curtain, Make a cradle so your growing child can, in turn, play with dolls Or let your creativity run free and even cut it up to make: A tote bag, which will follow you everywhere, as a memory of the cuddly years! Decorative accessories for your little one's room.
Which essential oils to diffuse to promote sleep in very young children?
Certain essential oils are particularly recommended to promote sleep. They work by allowing relaxation and a return to calm. Their fine and pleasant scent helps reassure and provides a soothing environment for the little ones. We have combined these essential oils into a synergy to be diffused with a diffuser or humidifier: the Relaxation and Sleep synergy. We also offer this synergy in the form of an ambient spray. The essential oils that make up our synergy are: Sweet Orange essential oil: It relaxes and calms. It fights anxiety, nervousness, and improves sleep, especially in children. Its very pleasant citrus scent is loved by children. Red Mandarine essential oil: It is relaxing and fights nervousness and agitation, making it recommended for sleep disorders. It helps relieve anxiety. Marjoram with shells essential oil: It is soothing and rebalances the nervous system. It is useful against nerve fatigue. Fine Lavender essential oil: It is calming and fights sleep disturbances and nervousness. Bitter Orange Bigarade Petit Grain essential oil: It is nerve-rebalancing and calms the mind. Bitter Orange Bigarade Petit Grain Fine Lavender Marjoram with shells Sweet Orange The diffusion can be done for 15 minutes in the room before putting your child to bed. These essential oils have been selected for use in very young children and also in pregnant or breastfeeding women. As a precaution, diffusion is not recommended before 3 months of age. Always ensure to close the bottle after use and keep out of reach of young children, and always air out your interiors.
Make your days easier, think baby carrier!
You are a future or new parent and are looking for a way to make your days easier? Make them softer and more pleasant? Carrying your baby can help you! Difficult days? The new rhythm brought by the arrival of a baby in your daily life is not easy. Responding to their needs while ensuring everyday life is synonymous with a new life often very intense, rhythmic with fatigue and the upheaval of your habits. Sleep... eat... prepare meals, do cleaning, laundry, shopping... Take your older child to school, go to medical appointments and external activities, think (a little) about yourself... and... your baby demands you, they need you and your arms! They cry as soon as you put them down. Taking a shower, breathing for 5 minutes, breathing fresh air, resting... becomes sometimes a perilous mission. So, how do you simplify your life? Regain your freedom thanks to carrying Carrying allows you to free your hands! Very practical to continue ensuring at least the basics of daily life. A real hands-free kit that will go everywhere: ditch the stroller when the elevator is out of order. Practical for walks in the forest and crossing paths or roads dotted with holes. A sense of freedom while having a calm baby against you! Softer days Softer because fewer tears! Snuggled against you, you will learn to discover your baby and will be more able to respond to their needs. Think about it, especially at the end of the day when your baby might need to unload their emotions (the "overload"). Softer because your baby will fall asleep more easily and quickly, they will experience familiar sensations from their parent’s belly and will let themselves be carried more easily into the arms of Morpheus. Carrying scares you? It’s normal, it questions you ("and if my baby gets used to it?"), you may fear not being able to tie your sling or losing patience. There are as many carrying methods as there are solutions to meet your needs. From the sling to tie to the clip-on baby carrier, enough to find your happiness and THE solution to make your days easier.
What is the best for Baby?
The best, it’s... The best is not the breast. It’s also not the bottle. The best is not holding him in your arms. It’s also not not holding him in your arms. The best is not placing him in a certain way. It’s also not placing him in another way. The best is not covering him in a certain way. It’s also not covering him in another way. The best is not giving him food in purée. It’s also not giving him food in pieces. The best is not what your mother says. It’s also not what your wife or husband says. The best is not having him stay with a nanny. It’s also not sending him to daycare or having him stay with his grandparents. The best is not following a certain type of education. It’s also not following another type of education. Do you know what is really the best? The best is you… The best is what your instinct tells you. The best is what helps you feel good. The best is what allows you to be happy with your family. Because if you are well, they will receive the best. Because the best is you. Because if you feel confident, they will also feel confident in themselves. Because if you believe you are doing well, your peace of mind and happiness will also be achieved. The best is you. Let’s stop telling every father or mother what is best for him or her. Because what is truly the best for your children, is you." Today I want to share with you this text that speaks to me a lot and that encourages me to be alongside parents. Often, everyone offers their advice on how to handle their baby. These comments often come from good intentions but are sometimes poorly adapted to your situation. Also, you sometimes find yourself overwhelmed and disconnected from your own feelings, no longer knowing who to listen to and sometimes even forgetting to listen to yourself! But aren’t you the best person to know what is best for you and your baby? To achieve this, you must start by trusting yourself… just a little! …listen to yourself, observe your baby with kindness, try things out… Through the parents we support, we often see many who "pass by" what seems right for them and their baby, thus causing guilt, disappointment... There are resource centers, organizations, associations... to take the time to talk about this, not to give you a ready-made answer, but so that you find Your answer. The one who will be just for you, without judgment and guiding you if needed, towards a professional who will be able to support you. You are not alone, but most of the answers are within you! Karen
