Today, the presence of the co-parent during childbirth has become an obvious choice for many. This intense moment, both physical and emotional, is no longer experienced alone: it is shared, supported, and navigated together. Yet, this role of the co-parent is relatively recent in the history of birth.
Beyond mere presence, the co-parent plays an essential role: they accompany, reassure, encourage, and become a true pillar in this timeless adventure. Whether the delivery occurs with or without epidural, every moment can be experienced together, in a unique complicity.
This article explores in detail this precious role, the different ways of being present and helpful, and the importance of preparing together to welcome baby in the best conditions.
The role of the co-parent: much more than a simple spectator
The co-parent is a true pillar during childbirth. Their role? To be there, fully. Support, reassure, relay information with the medical team, inform loved ones, observe contractions on the monitoring... and above all, admire the incredible strength of the person giving birth.
It is a suspended moment, out of time, to be lived together.
Childbirth with or without epidural: two experiences, the same support
With epidural
When the epidural is administered and effective, the pain diminishes, or even disappears. The couple then enters a waiting phase, often more serene. It is the midwife who will signal when to start pushing, as the body, asleep, may not do so spontaneously.
In this configuration, the co-parent becomes a coach, a motivator, an essential moral support to assist the physical effort despite the reduced sensations.
Without epidural
Here, the intensity is entirely different. The pain rises, contractions follow one after another, and the co-parent becomes an essential ally to get through this storm.
Here are some key missions:
- Remind that everything is normal: “Remember what the midwife explained...” Understanding the different phases of labor helps to better experience them.
- Physically support: massages, solid shoulders to hold on to, help with mobility... Movement promotes the baby's descent.
- Encourage tirelessly: like a sports coach, motivate when the desire to give up arises.
- Respect silence: do not speak during contractions, accept gestures of annoyance, stay present without invading.
- Keep calm: even if the pain is intense, it is natural. If the medical team remains calm, everything is going well.
- Do not question choices: avoid the famous “Are you sure you don’t want the epidural?” which can weaken determination.
Prepare together, live together
To experience this birth as a couple, it's best to discuss it in advance with the midwife and draft a birth plan. This document will serve as a guide for the medical team and will help to best respect your wishes.
Get informed, share, prepare together. Because there is nothing more powerful than discovering this little being, together, at the same moment, in the same emotion.






